Most of us are pretty poorly educated about how to parent adolescents. Consider how much time you spent training for your career before your first day of actual work. Now compare that to how much time you spent preparing to raise an adolescent (or 2 or 3) before your first day. ("Yea, I read a few books.") About once a month some event in my community shocks me and I have to call up my friend with this conversation: "Can you believe this parent???!!!"
I thought it would be interesting to pose some what if questions to see how differently we respond to the same situation. I would love to read what you think.
What if you were standing in the lobby of the movie theater waiting, like a herd of cattle, to be allowed into a movie. About 2 feet away you recognize a 16-year-old girl from your neighborhood, a sophmore in high school. She is one of those gorgeous, got everything going for her girls: wealthy family, great looks, athlete, good student. You only know her mom enough to say "hi" in the grocery store. You overhear this young lady tell her friend intensely: "My mother would be so incredibly mad with me if she found out I was sneaking out at night to meet this guy."
How many of you would:
A. Call the parent up and say something like, "This is very awkward. You hardly know me but I overheard your daughter very clearly say....?"
B. Figure it's not your business and stay out of it.
C. If it were your daughter, be incredibly thankful that that person called.
D. If it were your daughter, be incredibly angry that someone was butting into your business?
Yes, it happened to me (except it was not in a movie theater lobby) and I'll tell you what I did after you tell me what you would do. Maybe you have some other scenarios to share.