Babying gone too far?
My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for the past 17 months. We live together along with her 16 year old daughter Alyssa. I have a seven year old daughter who lives with us about 3 days a week on average. My girlfriend and I share allot of the same ideas and beliefs when it comes to parenting and I consider her a great mom. We do however bump heads frequently on one issue. Alyssa a sophmore in high school is a good student and pretty much a typical teenager. She does not have any chores and her room is a constant mess. The issue however is she constantly asks her mom to do simple everyday tasks for her such as cutting up her meat on her dinner plate or getting a bowl of ice cream from the freezer. She actually said "serve me" one day when dinner was prepared and on the stove. It has been heating up something in the microwave or getting her a drink. My girlfriend does whatever she asks. She says that it is her daughters way of getting attention. I think she is doing more harm than good by continuing to baby her in such a way. She adds that I will do the same for my daughter when she is older but I disagree. My seven year old makes her own bed and consistantly picks up after Alyssa. Is mom doing her a favor by sending her out into a world where she is not used to doing for herself or is this babying harmless and normal for a mother-daughter relationship?