Antisocial 16yr old
I really hope someone can give me some insight on my situation. I have spoken to family who all say "but she's so sweet" or "you could have bigger problems w/ her @ this age". We've also tried counselling on (2) seperate occassions--which my daughter won't say anything in front of me or while I'm not in the session--basically, she wouldn't open up to either counselor--one counselor suggested she was clinically depressed and offered a prescription. I declined. Here's the situation--my daughter doesn't seem to be interested in ANYTHING! Her grades have see-sawed since late elementary school--she was tested for learning disabilities twice--nothing was discovered. She has friends but makes no efforts to contact them or hang out with them. If they call her or come see her--she does interact w/ them and seems to enjoy it but it is NEVER something she initiates. She rarely asks to go to a party, skating, or a movie, etc. to meet friends or hang out w/ friends. Although, I encourage it and sometimes arrange it. She seems to have fun when out. When she's punished for poor grades, I take away her cell phone, iPod, use of home computer, or TV privileges. She doesn't care!!! I can have these items for months and she still goes about life as usual. Her grades will improve but only temporarily. She does not have any behavioral problems whatsoever--she isn't disrespectful, mouthy or filled w/ attitude at home or in school. She just seems so non-chalant about EVERYTHING!!! School, grades, boys, friends, life, etc. Am I making a big deal out of nothing?