Alot of Problems with Our 18yo Son
Our son is 18, will be 19 in March and we are having so many problems with him. He quit school and we told him he had to get a GED to remain living here so he did. He had a job for about 5 mos a year ago and quit because work circumstances were not the best but he has not really tried to get a job since then. He will not even try to get his driver's license and has just a permit.
On Christmas Eve he left in the middle of a night in one of the worst blizzards we have ever had to be with his best friend so they could party. He told other friends that he was so cold that he jumped in dumpsters to get warm. We told him Christmas Day that he had until Feb to get a job, get in school, or the military, something and that no one was allowed over, period. Especially after a week before when we were awakened by some drunk girls him and his friend tried to sneak into the house while we were asleep.
Then last night he and his best friend slipped into the house while we were asleep, drunk again. He has sold almost everything he owns to get cigarettes and is now stealing from us to sell things for money. He is also lying, telling horrible stories about how we mentally and physically abuse him, things that just break my heart to think that he could say.
My husband has tried to keep things calm as I am very ill due to MS and FMS and stress exacerbates the pain and symptoms but my son is a major stressor. I just do not know what to do. He has even stolen my medications to get high. We had him in counseling but he would just leave, walk out, and refused to go after he was 18. He just wants to have a good time and not be responsible for hisself or his actions.
And he is so inconsiderate. Back in July my husband fell from a roof and almost completely severed his arm and was hospitalized for a while then on restrictions afterward. So neither of us were able to do yard work and told our son he could do it (its not like he had a job). But he had to be told to cut the grass numerous times and then got mad if we kept asking. He would disappear for days so he would no have to do it.
I just don't know what to do. I really cannot take any more but I don't want my child living on the street either, but sometimes wonder if that would maybe give him a wake-up call.
Can anyone offer any advice? I don't know if this helps, but he is the middle child of three, ages, 17, 18, and 20. His oldest sister is in the Navy and his youngest sister is still at home and finishes schooling this year.