18 y/o daug. using drugs + more
Hello! This is my first time posting so please understand that I am going to be windy. This all started in Dec 07 when I found our oldest daughter (20 years) had drug pipes/etc in her car while home for Christmas break. We confronted her after the holidays and threatened to take her car/phone/etc but ultimately she promised to never use again if we would allow her to pursue her real college/career goal. We helped her enroll in a different school that same day. Then in April 08 my husband found our 18 year old daughter had pot in her car. These things always seem to happen right before a major holiday or family event. We approached her with the findings two days later only to have her admit she had been using but had purchased that months before and didn't know why exactly. She said she would take any punishment we could give but honestly my husband and I are not sure exactly what to do. She agreed to go to college here at a local junior college for the first year. Now then just two days ago I went to get our 2 year old her allergy medicine when I found a bottle of prescription cough syrup (with codeine) 90% empty. This bottle was purchased in March for our other daughter but NEVER opened. My husband and I have VERY little doubt which child it was that drank/took it but we are flustered on what to do. As I searched through the medicine cabinet I found we are missing several bottles of pain medicine- some from two years ago when I had my hysterectomy. Instinctively I want to run her directly to the doctors office but I am afraid for several reasons. My husband used recreational drugs in college and after (before we met) and I am not sure how much of that our kids know about/think they know about. Secondly this is graduation weekend. This young lady (and our other daughter- not twins but blended family) will both be graduating on Sunday and we are expecting atleast 30 family members for lunch/graduation party. Do we wait until Monday or attack now? She is 18 so she can move out if she doesn't like our punishment - what would you do for punishment? Do you think we have moved from recreational to addiction ? HELP!!