17 y/o son won't get a job
I am trying to get my 17 year old to get a job and he is resisting me all the way. I am a single mother raising two boys, and not making a whole lot of money right now. He recently passed his GED and he is home and not doing anything right now. Through two legal scrapes he got into as a juvenile he cost me thousands of dollars in lawyers fees. He is belligerent and rude when I try to get him up in the morning to go look for a job. He knows that if he waits it out, I will have to leave to go to work and he is just dandy for another day. I recently re-enrolled in college and could really use every penny I can get. I am not asking for him to give me room and board, just to pay for his own entertainment (movies, dates, etc) and to show me that he will be mature enough to handle responsibilites such as a driver's license by paying for his portion of my car insurance. I have been at the point where I have threatened to throw him out, but I know thats not the solution, but the kid is really pushing my buttons bad. My younger son is getting about 5 minutes of my time every day because his brother just soaks up all my energy just dealing with his tantrums and rudeness. Their father is deceased, so I am dealing with this on my own and not handling this well - I am so tired of starting my day off arguing and trying to get him up. I feel he is taking advantage of the lack of an adult male in the house who wouldn't put up with this nonsense. I don't understand this reluctance to grow up - p.s. I tried the couseling route but the counselor even told me that my son was on the defiant side and told me I would find this all really amusing some day.