16 yr old Step-Daughter is out of control
Wow, I don't even know how to keep this short and to the point, but I will do my best. I am the step-father to (2) girls, one is 16 the other is 13. The 16 year old is the one with major issues, the 13 year old acts just fine. I've been in their life for 8 years now and the older child has always shown flashes of having anger management issues. Even when she was 8 years old, she would slam doors, yell at her mom, etc. Throughout the years it has just gotten worse, she's been caught at school with weed, been in fights, got pregnant last year, and she's always been disrespectful to her mom, grand parents and myself. I've tried to play a role in her life, but she's never respected me and she's always playing the "you're not my daddy" card. Speaking of her dad, he's actually got a restraining order against him for assaulting the girl, but she STILL, to this day she worships the ground he walks on and she will do anything to hurt her mother and myself, the 2 people that have cared for her, it's very frustrating. Well, recently, things have gotten violent between the girl and her mother, since she got her driver's license and started dating a new boy, she's lied, broken curview and has just been out of control. There's also speculation that this new guy is abusing her, his mom actually told us that, so all parties decided that it would be best if we just limit their time together. Finally, my wife just took the keys away and grounded her, but that just doesn't work, she walks out of the house, curses at her, etc. Last week, things just got REALLY out of control, the girl started throwing things, yelling and my wife called the police. They came and talked to her. Last night, same thing, called the police, they came and calmed the situation, but I can't have the police at my house every night because they are not solving the problem. We have had her in counceling NUMEROUS times and it's a joke, she doesn't take it seriously. I really believe that she has some sort of mental problems and I would love to get her evaluated, but I don't know how to get that done, who to go to? I mean, it has gotten so bad. I'm the step-dad and I feel like I can't get involved at all, in the past I have tried to talk to her calmly and she will just not listen to me. Last night, my wife told me that the girl told the boyfiend's mom that I have abused her and choked her, that absolutely broke my heart because NOT ONCE have I ever laid a hand on her. She is trying to break our family up with lies and her violent behavior and I just don't know what else to do. I seriously belive that she needs to be sent away for an evaluation, to get away from these other kids that are bad influences, but I don't know how to get that accomplished and the police are absolutely no help, at least here in my town. I am so sorry that this is so long and that I rambled, but my heart is just broken in two right now.