15 Year Old Daughter going down bad path
Our daughter is an only child and has always been a great kid. My husband and I have always had a great relationship with her, but a year and a half ago I found out she had tried cutting herself (three times). I was horrified and could not believe that this was going on. I beat myself up over the fact that I did not see it. We got into councelling and seemed to be making progress figuring out her problems. She was depressed and had trouble making friends. This year she made a new friend at the start of school. Things seemed to be going well. I met the girl a few times and our daughter started staying over on occasion. I met the mother and all seemed ok. Then I found out that the mother (single) was allowing the girls to go out at night with older boys and even stay over at parties. When we found this out, we stopped allowing our daughter to go there, but she had already started going out with one of these boys. We find out that the boy is 17, a high school dropout, does drugs, has an underage drinking charge and is very lazy. She says he makes her happy and that she will run away if we do not let her see him. She is becoming lazy, has started smoking and although her grades are still high (she is in all advanced 9th grade classes and has A's) I am worried her school will falter. I need advice. Do we try to ban her from him? Do we wait it out and hope she will figure it out on her own? I just get so tired of arguing all the time about the same issues.