15 year old daughter and birth control
Hi, I saw the poll on whether you would comply with your 15 year old's request for birth control and decided to write since my daughter and I have been discussing that exact thing. She has other reasons for asking - like decreased cramping, acne, mood swings - but I'm not fooled into thinking that she is not contemplating sex with her boyfriend. He has told her he will wait until she is ready (he is 17) and by all accounts is a good kid himself. However, my husband has moved out and filed for divorce, my daughter prefers to be with him although he is rarely home with his work schedule and lives with his mother and divorced sister and her two children. My daughter says being with her boyfriend is the only time she doesn't feel the pressure of our situation and I understand. I didn't want a divorce and am having a hard time with all of this and I don't live as close to her friends as her father does. My next problem is that I myself was pregnant at 15 and my parents took me to New York (illegal in my state at the time) for an abortion. I didn't disagree that at the time this was the best decision. I was fully aware of my actions at the time and the consequences (there is a lot more to all of this but to keep it short these are the basic facts I'm taking into consideration). I haven't told my daughter about this pregnancy but my husband knows. I don't want her to make the same mistakes I made (like most parents)but am not sure what to tell her. I do encourage her to talk to me about anything without judgement. Any suggestions?