13 yr old out of control
Im not sure where to start at this point Im lost and not sure what to do. My daughter is 13. I swear going on 21. She is so wanting to grow up so fast. For the most part she is good kid, Outside of me, she is respectful and kind. She is good in school, in soccer on a premier team this summer she kept busy babysitting and making money. Lately, actually the last year, I;ve been loosing touch. Last year during schhol she skipped school with a boy, to the point I had to take and pick her up from school. Any technology she abuses, cell phone, computer. etc. and everything is a secret. Into witch craft and inspired by goths/or emo's I believe thats what there called, wanting to wear make-up, wearing black. I've recently found a myspace profile that I was unware of, and she was communicating with older boys 18+. and the things she would say, just to be cool was crazy. I couldnt believe it. I feel like she is doing anything and everything to get negative attention. I've talked to her about the make-up/the boys/and the abuse of her cell phone etc. She swears she will never do it again.. this has been said several times after being punished and her cell phone being taking away. I fianally gave her phone back just to take it away in less the 2 days, for abusing it again. After giving her the rules. Her explantation is I wanted to. Im so fustrated that today..I actually blew up and I said some things that I now regret. Its a constant battle to keep her at her own age 13. What is going on. I understand that she wants to be her own person, but there's a limit. I feel like she just wants to be a follower, but at the same time she makes her own decisions and does her own things. Im confused on what to do. I dont want to loose my daughter to BS. But she says that she doesnt want to talk to me, she never wants to talk to me. I offered writing in a journel as a diary to eachother back and forth..but she refuses and hasnt done that. She is a wonderful writer, I know she can communicate. Whats going on. and how do i redirected all her negativity.