Roxie's picture

13 yr old daughter is cutting herself

As an extremely worried Mom, I don't know where else to turn.
I've recently found out from my daughters school counselor that she has been cutting her arms and has alot of anxiety.
We are very involved parents and we didn't even know this has been going on for over 3 months. I feel so sad and ashamed that I did not know the pain my daughter has been going through.
I opened her computer this morning after she went to school to see what I could find. She wrote a lengthy letter in a word document that made me cry.
She often feels like hurting herself and mentioned hanging at one point. I almost lost my breath.
Where do I go from here? I don't want to lose my precious child.
Have any of you gone through this or have a teen daughter who has triumphed over this emotional age and come out feeling whole again?
Thank you for listening.

2xstepmom's picture

Your daughter needs immediate intervention. Did you get any referrals from the school? Have you researched cutting so you can understand her emotional need to do this? This is not about you or how involved you are as parents. Your daughter has a serious emotional disorder and needs to be seen by a therapeutic team qualified to deal with this issue. I have worked professionally with girls who were cutters who with intensive treatment were able to find ways to redirect their need to cut. Medication is often helpful also. Find help for your daughter now.