13 year wants to go to boyfriends house
My daughter is 13 and just finished 8th grade, the boy she has been going with for 8 months is in her grade and has turned 14. They text each other constantly, go to school events together and to the mall with friends. We told her that she can not go with him alone anywhere and she has respected our wishes even though she thinks we don't trust her, etc. etc. None of the other kids in the class are dating (It is a Catholic School and all of the kids have been at the same school since 1st grade and just don't see each other in that kind of way). There have been some advantages to her seeing this boy, she has built a lot of confidence and self-esteem, talks more, and seems very happy. She has lots of interests and gets straight A's. The problem now is that the boys parents asked me and her dad if my daughter can come to their house for an afternoon swim party. Their house is across town, there will be at least 3 adults plus the boys older siblings and maybe a few of their friends. Our first reaction is NO you are not going to a boy's house, you are only 13 and none of the other kids from the class will be there. Again she thinks we don't trust her which we do we just don't feel comfortable with the situation. The boy's step-dad did not understand our concerns expecially since they will be supervised the entire time. Are we over-reacting? should we allow her to go to this boys house? We were hoping she would want to move on from this relationship after school ended, but so far it looks like they will want to spend a lot of time together this summer and we need to set some rules and boundaries but not sure where to start. Can anyone provide some advice for us?