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Mom of 3

7 years old son curious about feminine private parts-what should I do?

I have 3 boys: 20 months, 4 and 7 years old.
My 4 years old and 7 years old sons are being curious about the feminine private parts. Of course, having 3 boys at home, they do know that they all have a penis but they do not know what a girl looks like. All they know is that girls do not have a penis, and that this is what makes us girls and what makes them boys.

My 7 years old asked me today again ''what did I have over there since I didn't have a penis''. I feel that I should try to tell him but at the same time I don't know how to proceed? I would rather be the one who explains this to him than knowing that he may try to figure out by himself by asking his friends (or simply just making a big deal out of it!) I would like to take this opportunity to make it clear to him right from the start that I am open to that kind of discussion with him.

All my friends who have kids, had both boys and girls with only a year or 2 apart, so their kids all know what the other gender looks like.(and they are not making a big deal out of it because there is nothing to be curious about!)
Any suggestions? Thanks!



mayamay's picture
mayamay

I would find an illustration, study it well, practice drawing your own copy, then you and dad sit with the boy and draw the external genitalia of the female body. Include the legs and the bum. You don't need to go into a lot of detail, but I do think it is important for people to know that there are separate passages for each function--anus, vagina, urethral opening.

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mary59

show him a picture of the female body. so it be easy to explain it to him.
if you feel ok about him seeing your. then let him. it should be up to you and your hubby.

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junieg

Try your local library or bookshop for an age appropriate book about human biology.