My wife and I have been married for a little over a year. She has 3 children, 21 year old twins and an 18 year old. The 18 yo (daughter) and boyfriend (21)have lived with us since we got married. Recently the 21 yo (boy) came to live with us. One issue at a time I guess even though they are similar.
18 year old...UNBELIEVABLE disrepect! She talks to her mother in a manner that I wouldnt talk to a stray dog. Calls her obscene names etc. Recently we were out running errands and the daughter called and demanded that we return to the house immediately because she needed $15.00. This is a regular occurance, she goes through money like water through a sieve. I suspect much of the money my wife loans/give to her goes for pot. I've tried to talk to my wife abou the lack of respect and I get accused of causing trouble between her and her kids. I wasnt raised to disrepect my parents and niehter wsa my wife.
21 year old...again NO RESPECT what-so-ever! Rude, overbearing and ill-mannered. No respect for anyone's property, no respect for simple house rules. He has been told numerous times about smoking pot in the house but refuses to comply. He is lazy, refuses to help out around the house, works full time, does not contribute a dime. First to the dinner table and last (never has) to help with dishes. Takes clothes from the dryer and piles them in a clothes basket. All I'm asking is for him to be a contributing member of the household. He pays no rent, no utilities no anything. He seems to be certain that if it is in the house he should have unlimited access to it.
So here is the dilema, I love my wife dearly and would walk on broken glass for her. She has made it clear that her kids come before me and that my griping and [filtered word]ing about thier behavior is not acceptable. I cannot tolerate the lack of respect her kids have for her. It sickens me! I dont want my marriage to end but its nearing that point for one reason, her kids lack of respect and refusal to follow simple and realistic houshold rules. Both kids are 100% not ready to become a part of the socially acceptable mainstream. They have no manners, no rescpet for anyone or anything and are 100% certain that everyone is there to serve them.
Hopefully someone has soem realistc suggestions.