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mom_of_2

At my wits end!!!

I have two children, a son who is 9, and a daughter who is 5 1/2. I love them both dearly, and cannot imagine being without them. Lately though, they have both been incredibly defiant, and antagonistic to both each other and my husband and I. My son has been yelling at me every time I ask him to do something, and has even told me lately that maybe I should just kill him if I hate him that much. I do not know where he got that idea, or why he would even say something like that!! We do not talk that way in our house, and we have always disciplined with consistency and and even yet stern tone to our voice. My daughter has been defiant not only at home, but being a complete "brat" for the lack of a better word, in public. I do not give in to tantrums in public, nor will I ever. I simply say in a hushed stern voice that the behavior is unacceptable, it needs to stop, and if it does not, she will be on the time out chair when we get home. Many times I have just left everything in the cart and walked out of the store and gone home. Today they have been fighting all day while I have been trying to get housework done. I promised them I would take them to the library after lunch, and when we got there, my daughter was a handful to say the least. She had no patience for anything!! I reminded her of consequences, and it did not matter. When we got into the van, I yelled at them-something I absolutely hate doing. I had just reached my wits end! I told them their behavior was embarrasing, and that i was embarrased to have people know they were my children. Way too harsh, and I should have never said that. i feel terrible for doing so. I really want to enjoy my kids, they grow so fast, and feel like I am losing them. I have tears in my eyes as I am writing this, and I am looking for any advice that can help me!



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mayamay

When did this start? Who began behaving badly first? Have there been other changes in your household?

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mom_of_2

It started about 1.5 months ago, and it really seemd to be both of them at the same time!! There have not been any changes in our household. Everything has pretty much been the same!! I am not sure what the trigger is!!!