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Julia-n

Mother tells me I'm over weight constantly

Im nineteen years old and 132lbs I know that that's over weight but not to the extreme. I go for walks with my mother everyday .I started with a wLl cycle I thought I was doing so well when'd my mother wants me to start going for longer walks.I didn't feel ready for that yet and I told her so.she then tells me there is no change I'm fat over weight and bloated that I don't want to help myself.I want to help myself I know I'm over weight.it hurts when she tells me constantly it brings me down just when I think I'm going somewhere.....



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kellykid8

I am so sorry your mom is the one telling you this. I too was overweight at your age not a lot but, enough to sink my self esteem. The very next time your mom tells you your overweight, tell her yes, I know, I am an adult and take responsibility for the person I am. Be firm and each time she comments on your weight, ask her why she feels the need to remind you of this. (Well, if I don’t who will? Or well, you don’t seem to care?) It is ok to ask her why she does that? Because it is not helpful, it is hurtful and her you would appreciate her efforts in not saying this every time, just love me for who I am. I don't think she is trying to be malicious, (hopefully), some parents do this, when their child comes of age and is looking to move out on their own, or go away to college and keeping them in a dependent, depressed state of mind, may just keep that from happening. But remind her that you are fully aware that you could stand to lose a few pounds, but her constant reminders of that are very hurtful to you. When she responds, out of hurtfulness, because likely she thinks she’s being helpful and says something like, well if you can’t hear it from me, your own mother, what will you do if someone else says it to you? Tell her clearly that when you are ready to take the next step, you will, until then love me for the person I am, a kindhearted, loving person with or without a few extra pounds. Good luck.