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Discussion Title: Toddlers and Pushing
Created by: jsf418
Created on: Thu, 10/11/2007 - 2:31pm.

Hi there-
I am relatively new to the message boards and am hoping for some advice or peace of  mind!  My daughter is 2 1/2 and she is a very good toddler and sweet girl, but has her moments and has been tabbling with pushing.  I understand that this is normal, but today she really hurt another little girl and I felt terrible!!!  It is so embarrassing for me when this happens!!  I am hoping for some coping mechanisms and some advice!!!  Thanks

Author: Host Marti
Replied: 10/14/2007 9:02am.

Hey jsf418

 

Welcome to the boards.  I think that you have to talk to your child about pushing and about how it hurts other children.  You need to talk to her about how we act sweet and don't hurt others.  In addition to this, you need to have a punishment for everytime she pushes that will make her see how serious you are about her not pushing.  For example, she can't play with her favorite toy or something like that when she pushes.  Or whatever you think would get her attention the most.

 

Anyone else have any other ideas?

 

Marti

 

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Author: jsf418
Replied: 10/15/2007 3:40pm.

Thanks.  We have those conversations all the time!!!  I know that she understands she should not do it, and I have really been paying attention and watching what sets her off.  She does not push other kids to be mean or just at random. I notice she does it when they are not communicating back to her. My daughter is very verbal, and I notice that when other children are not responding to her, she gets frustrated and sometimes will push. We are working on this and giving her other ways of handling her frustration and we are interfering when we see that it is not working for her!  The joys of toddler hood- thanks for the advice!!!