I have 16 month old twins (boy/girl) and am a stay at home mom. My inlaws and I disagree on the matter of whether or not my twins should be separated from each other. My mother in law feels I am harming their mental and social well being by not allowing her to take care of one while I take care of the other. The kids are exposed to other children via play dates by me. My mother in law has admitted she cannot handle both children at the same time by herself and that was when she decided that they need to start being separated from each other. I do believe in individual time with each child (my husband and I each spend time with each child alone for a good while each weekend for bonding purposes and to give them individualized attention). We agree we are doing a good job as parents of twins and they are doing quite well. My parents also feel we are doing well. Any advice out there?