tylersmommy05's picture

Is this normal two year old behavior?

My two year old son has been showing such a high level of hyperactivity that even his preschool teacher has asked me, "Is he this busy at home too?"  He must be going, going, going at all times unless he is eating or sleeping.  He will actually have a few points in a day where he seems to be engaged in an activity but not for long.  I know he is two and two years show many signs of misbehavior as they learn.  My son ignores almost anyone who tells him no.  It is as if he must act as he desires and shows no regard for any type of consequence.  He will of course throw a tantrum when he is being corrected but that almost never stops him from going right back and doing it again.  If he becomes upset, angry, frustrated etc he will hit, he will even hit his toys.  Sometimes he will just walk up to me and hit me for no reason.  He is very sweet but throws quite a bit of tantrums.  He can figure his way around any obstacle we put up. He pulls the outlet covers right out of the socket, he can remove the child safety cap off a pill bottle in a couple seconds, and when we arranged our living room so that the couched blocked off an area he wasn't allowed, he just climbed on the back of the couch and jumped off.  It seems as if he doesn't recognize fear even after getting hurt.  I wish I could figure out if this is all normal or if I should be looking for some expert advice.  He really is a good, sweet, loving child, he just seems as though he is really high strung and his will to have his way is stronger than even a concern that he might get hurt. Help, please! 

Cristi555's picture

Is he a danger to the other kids at preschool? You may want to have him checked (to put your mind at ease, if for no other reason). It sure sounds to me like you have been taking all of the appropriate steps to parent him! Good luck!


Joyce's picture

Your child has not hit the terrible twos, it is a two year old whose mind is thinking with independence. First off you should ONLY tell a child NO if there is dangerof getting hurt. Learn to use other words as not for "John" or "BaBy". At two you need to stop the child what he or she is doing wrong, look at them face to face and speak to them is a calm voice. They need to see that eye contact. Like hiting. Look at the child in the eye and calmly say I live you very much, but I don' t (like or approve) of your behavior. Explain to whem why they can't hit. Give them a hug and tell them you know they can be nice without hitting. There has to be ae appropriate punishment for things such as tearing up a room, climbing on furniture, or getting in things that are not for your child. Age appropriate is 2-3 min at this age. Have them sit where you can see them until they can be the (good  little boy or girl I know you can be) Praise always needs to be included in the correction. Remeber they all want attention no matter if it is from poor or good behavior! Good Luck & enjoy!

elainak11's picture

Hi, I know this is a late reply to your post back in June of 2007 in regards to your 2 year old's behavior. My son is 2 1/2 and you couldn't have described my son any better. I feel very, very alone at times with his behavior. So many times I think what am I doing wrong, what is wrong with his behavior? Is this due to him not speaking, or what? I'm not sure how old your son is now, but how is it going? Has anything changed, has he calmed down. Any response would be much appreciated. Thank you.

kali's picture

Do not worry, there is help. Contact your early intervention evaluation team for your county. Your pediatrician should have the number. They will evaluate Tyler's behavior, usually for free. High activity level often has to do with visual processing issues and/or tactile processing issues. There are lots of activities and things you can do to decrease his activity level and to get him to listen. It is great to have help and support..especially when behavior can be hard and we are not sure what to do.

father_of_2's picture

This is a late reply i know..

but this all sounds symptomatic of ADHD.

I would speak to your ped.


tamz's picture

Please excuse my disrespect, but I was just waiting for someone to say he must have ADHD... of course he does!! All kids who can't sit still should be drugged...

I'm sorry maybe I'm in a mood, but for goodness sake the kid is two ... behavior modification and extra parenting !!! I'm sure it would not be hard to find a doctor however to diagnose a disorder if you want one!!There are thousands of kids who are drugged to make them sit still.

concerned mom's picture
concerned mom

My sons, now 5 and 4, have always been very active. My oldest has a processing disorder (thought to be a sensory issue), but no ADHD. Talk to your child's dr if you're concerned. You can schedule an eval w/ a Developmental Pediatrician also, which may be helpful in ruling anything out. This cld just be an age thing too, but use your judgement in seeking medical advice if you feel it's necessary. Good luck.

bipolarmom's picture

Just because someone mentions there may be a diagnoses of ADHD or Autism or whatever, it doesn't mean that they are automatically suggesting drugs. There are tons of alternative therapies out there. I have recovered my son from severe autism using only alternative methods. No drugs.

We mom's and relatives with children who have special needs recognise the warning signs and are only trying to be helpful. Getting an early diagnoses is essential for getting the help your child needs. Your child's brain is developing rapidly in the first six years so it is more likely to respond to treatment before years of the unwanted behaviour sets in.

By the way anger and denial are common reactions to hearing that your child may need help. However it does not help your child if they really are in need of proffesional help.

Incidentally boys are much more susceptable to pervasive developmental disorders. And 1 in 150 children are now diagnosed with autism. It sucks but, it's the reality we live in like it or not.

rockvale's picture

I would like to know of some successful ways of dealing with a two year old boys bad behavior like tantrums that last and last and will never give in. He has a very gentle encouraging Mum and Dad and a new baby brother 5 days old. Yes his tantrums are stronger since babies arrival but he has always been strong willed, is using words well, understands when he has been naughty but refuses to change his disruptive behavior towards others or sometimes just anger at what is not going right with what he is doing at the time. He is a sweet caring boy due to his parents influence when not challenged by something that can change him instantly into a devil child. I am his Nana and would love to share some answers with my Daughter in law and Son.

acitez's picture

Since this is your grandson, not your son, my best idea is that IF your daughter-in-law ASKS, you suggest that his blood sugar may be unusually erratic, and that she be sure that he gets a protein snack and plenty of water to drink. Also, he may need more sleep.

When he is a little older, he needs to be taught how to express disappointment and anger in more appropriate ways. You could do this yourself when he is with just you. Just talk to him when he sees you suffer a disappointment, show him how you can try to work toward a better outcome.