Help! My 18 month old won't take a nap except when he's on me
I'm new to this site and am desperate for some help. My 18 month old son goes to sleep at night without any problems. We have a routine that he loves, I nurse him just a bit (I'm going to start dropping this feeding and begin weaning) and off to bed he goes without a problem. He's not asleep when I put him down, but doesn't have any issues as I leave the room and he easily falls asleep.
HOWEVER, nap time is a different story. I will nurse for a few moments, he will drift off, and then when I try to get him in his bed, he SCREAMS! Not cries, screams so loud that the neighbors have inquired if he's ok. A couple of weeks ago, I tried just letting him scream. After up to an hour and 45 minutes of this for several days, I gave up. He also began waking in the middle of the night and crying. So I went back to allowing him to nap on me just to allow us all to catch up on sleep. Today I tried to get him in his crib again and more screaming. I only let it go 15 minutes and gave up. It seems cruel to let him scream. But I really don't want him sleeping on me any longer.
Does anyone have any experience with this and other ideas? I'm trying not to judge myself for not taking care of this sooner, but I really feel like I goofed and now I'm trying to back pedal and sleep-train a very strong-willed 18 month old.
I welcome your feedback.