Daycare nightmare HELP!!!
We are having a real problem with our 3 year old son. He had to start daycare this year because my mom (who has been watching him) had to go back to work. We started him off in a big daycare and they made us take him out because for 4 weeks all he did was scream. They say he will calm down if he is engaged in something he likes but if he has to transition to something else he screams and cries and will kick walls and doors. When anyone asks what is wrong he says he does not want mommy to have to work. He will have some good days but he always screamed through the 2 hour nap time. This week we started him in a ladies house who has a small family daycare. He did good on the first day but the next three days he started screaming when I left. It takes about 2 hours for him to calm down and then he will scream off and on all day. We have tried rewards, punishments, talking to him, removal of his toys. He even wears a picture of us around his neck. Nothing seems to work. The daycare worker now says she has tried everything to calm him. She said she has never seen a child that nothing seems to work. Unlike the first day care when he gets home he says he loves it and he loves Ms Heather. He says 'I promise I won't cry anymore because I know you will come back' but as soon as we pull up he starts screaming. Any suggestions? I wish I could stay home and keep him but that is not possible. It breaks my heart. I am strong in the mornings and very up beat when I bring him to school. We sing and play games all the way there.