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happy

boys and dolls

        Hello  I have a son who is three years old  and he has two older sisters ages six and seven and they love to play with their barbie dolls . My situation is that my son wants to play with them how do I explain to him that dolls are for girls or should he grow out of this stage?        please reply thanks                                                    happy



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happy

is there anyone out there that can help me with this situation or am i being paranoid?   my 3 year old son wants to play dolls with his sisters. what should i do?

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mspila

Hi Happy.

Your son wants to play with his sisters. It sounds like he is well socialized. My son plays with dolls too--they're called action figures, though. They fight each other, talk, and save people. When I was a girl, I played matchbox cars with my brothers because they outnumbered me just like your daughters are older and outnumber your son. I would let him participate.

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happy

Thanks mspila,     I  guess that I did not look at it that way ,  now that you mention it ,  when he plays with his trains or his cars  he will put the doll inside to drive  and sometimes he will have them do karate or fight spiderman.                                                        

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BrandyReed

I think it;s o.k. for boys to play with dolls. When I had my second child my son who was 18 months also wanted a baby.  We bought him a boy cabbage patch doll and he took care of it for a while and then soon grew out of it.  I think teaching your boys how to take care of a baby makes them a great father and a great big brother

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junieg

Why would it be a problem for a boy to play with dolls? I work with 2 year olds and most of the boys spend time in the home corner every day , and they all love playing with the dolls, bathing, 'feeding' and putting them to bed. Role play is so wonderful for them. They are actually working out situations for themselves. Listen discreetly to what they are saying. You will probably find yourself reflected in what they say. I work in a Froebelian nursery, and we consider that play is a child's work. 80% of anyone's learning is done by the age of 5. This is a critical learning period for him. I bought my youngest son a baby doll when he was 4 as he loved playing with them at nursery and he was 18 at the weekend. It didn't do him any harm. 

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JTuSpoiled

I just don't agree that dolls are strictly for girls and that boys shouldn't play with them. That would be like teaching your children that some jobs aren't appropriate for girls (and vice versa).

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JTuSpoiled

  I completely agree. My daughter plays with "boy toys" much more than she plays with "girl toys".

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kris

Hi

I would'nt worry at all my son was mad for dolls when he was that age and he had no sisters he is now 8 and only into boys toys!

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beatifulmom23

we have two children a girl who is 5 and a boy 3 he loves to play with his sister i think that it is wonderfull i think that will make him more understanding and loving to girls to fix this situation i bought him a little people doll by fisher price it's interactive he wears a little fireman costume teaches how to tie button and so on but this doll was created for boys they also have one for girls it's just a thought

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gail Hanson

Here's a funny one I just remembered.  I had 4 daughters and then a son.  When he was about 3 or 4, he started talking about when he would have babies, and it was clear from the phrases that he thought he would be the one that actually bore the babies!  I was astounded!  I had raised 4 girls through this phase, and of course, when they said those things, I just let it pass.  I had to sit him down and explain the facts of life.  I took the opportunity to go over ALL the facts.  I figured he would just ignore the parts he wasn't ready to hear.  I was right.  He had always liked girls, and after that, he started picking out the ones that could be his wife and the mom to his children.