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bleclair

2yr old temper tantrums

omg i don't know how much longer i can deal with my 2yr old temper tantrums. in alot of ways i feel bad. i'm a working mother who has a child in daycare my husband also works full time plus because he is really involved with our church. from the time that i pick alivia up she is bursting with energy but also bursting with her little tantrums. i've tried just walking off from her and ignoring her until she gets done. i tried displining her for them by making her sit down in time out and taking away from her what ever she was playing with. but alivia is so strong willed its like it doesn't matter to her. i get so frustrated with her sometimes... but its like when her dad is around all he has to do is say her name in this masculine voice and she hops to... ok so what can i do to stop these tantrums. she has just started daycare and she is in an adjustment period and i don't know if that has anything to do with it or if she is just in that stage of being a toddler. i feel bad for displining her when i havent seen her all day but she needs boundaries and she needs to know where those are, but what can you do when you have a child that is so strong willed nothing you do matters. HELP



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acitez

Whenever I hear about tantrums I address the basic things first. The first question I ask is about the child's blood sugar level and hydration, because too many times the child is just thirsty or tired. The second question I ask is "Did the child nap?" because the next big problem with tantrums is fatigue. Make sure that Alivia gets an afternoon snack at the day-care, and that she gets a nap, morning or afternoon, whatever works for all of them.

If those things don't solve the problem, I would make sure that the first 15 minutes or so after I picked her up were just our time, no errands, no other people, just the two of us, (three, if Daddy is there.)

About the masculine voice thing, every one of my kids did the same thing. That is one you just have to adjust to. Way easier said than done!

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concerned mom

I think it's a combo of both the terrible 2s and getting adjusted to daycare. Your daughter's probably exhausted after a long day in daycare, but she'll get used to it. Don't worry. It takes time, but you'll get there. Be patient, and be strong. It sounds like you're more of the pushover than your husband (sort of my situation w/ my husband and our boys). If your daughter acts out, try to console her. Otherwise distract her w/ a toy or music or something of that nature. If she still throws tantrums, you can just walk away and let her finish. It saves you from getting frustrated too. Then when she's done, explain to her that she shldn't act like that. Try to get her to use her words or show you what she wants. Also, give her lots of love, hugs and kisses. She may just be seeking attention from you b/c she misses mommy. Hang in there! My kids skipped the terrible 2 stage and went straight to the terrible 3s. Hopefully for you, it'll be over sooner than later! Good luck!
Oh, btw, when my kids were 2, time out didn't work for us. They wld get up, fool around, and think the whole thing was a joke. I either had to hold them there or try some other discipline. It's hard, but do whatever works for you. Each child is different.