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starophie

How Can I Get My Sister To Punish Me?

Hi there. I know this might sound a little odd, but let me just give it a go. I am a teenager and I live with my older sister who is about 10 years my senior. Why we live together is not important but neither of us are welcome in our parent's home any longer. At any rate, I love my sister dearly. Sometimes, however, I know I am a total brat to her. I try not to be, but as is often the case with teenage girls, we can't always control what comes out of our mouths. I know what I say hurts her sometimes, but when I apologize she tends to act as though I've done nothing wrong and have nothing to apologize for.

I am looking for advice on how to talk to her about punishing me. I know I deserve it and I feel incredibly guilty when I talk back or mouth off to her, but the most she'll do is say my full name or lightly scold me. I'm not exactly sure how I'm looking for her to punish me, but any sort of ideas you may have would be a help. Mostly I want us to remain as close as we are, for I fear that I may be driving a wedge between us with my bad behavior.

Please be kind. I am not a bad kid, I don't think, just a little rude on occasion. Any help you could give me would be greatly appreciated.

Signed Sincerely,

A Devoted Little Sister



mayamay's picture
mayamay

Instead of having her punish you, I have an idea that will help you address the problems you have.

It seems that your most pressing concern is your rudeness to your sister.

So, Be polite.

Say please and thank you. Respond to directions or requests with, "Happy to do that." or "That's a good idea" or with
"Sorry, I can't right now. Would it be okay for me to do it later?"

Clean up your own messes, pitch in with other housework and cooking. Keep her informed of your commitments and whereabouts. Engage her in conversation.

Be polite. You know you want to. Just do it.