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BAMBI723

A VERY DISRUPTIVE 5 YEAR OLD

MY 5 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER HAS BEEN GETTING IN TROUBLE A LOT AT SCHOOL BY NOT FOLLOWING DIRECTION, NOT LISTENING TO THE TEACHER, SHE HIT A LITTLE GIRL AFTER THE GIRL HIT HER FIRST, SCREAMED AT THE TEACHER, WILL NOT STAY IN HER SEAT, ETC. SHE IS A VERY SMART 5 YR OLD WHOM KNOWS ALL THE THINGS THAT ARE BEING TAUGHT IN HER CLASSROOM AND LIKES TO BE CHALLENGED. SHE IS THE SAME WAY AT HOME. I FIND MYSELF FIGHTING WITH HER AS IF SHE IS A TEENAGER. I AM AT A LOSS AND DO NOT KNOW WHAT ELSE I CAN DO. I HAVE TRIED EVERY EFFORT TO SOLVE THIS PROBLEM. I AM VERY CONSISTENT WITH THE DISCIPLINE BUT THINGS SEEM TO BE GETTING WORSE. I JUST NEED TO KNOW WHAT CAN HELP. PLEASE HELP ME



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M.J.O
Sorry to hear you are struggling with this. Its not unsual for kids to have periods of 'defiance', so don't feel alone. Consistency and discipline are so vital - thats good to hear that you have kept up with it. The other side to this is positive reinforcements. Really take notice and point out and celebrate all the good behaviours you'd like to reinforce, its ok to start small. Also if you are constantly "at each others throats", you may need to make time for fun mommy/daughter time together to connect more - maybe a movie night or something of a girls night. Finally, consider adding a time to just 'talk' about her day. Speak to her in a mature manner and ask things about her day... How was the teacher today? Are there any kids that caused trouble? Open the door to let her communicate her feelings and frustrations. I wish there was an easy fix to your routines, but it will take time to re-establish her behaviour - I wish you luck!
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AnneR
There must be something bothering her if she just started to act out for no reason. I would suggest a "mommy-an-daughters-day-out". Then, while you two are having loads of fun, ask her why she is acting out. Try to figure out what is on her mind and what you can do to help. Maybe she is getting frustrated because nothing is a challenge for her anymore. You can maybe ask her if there is anything that she would like to do extra at school, to stimulate her brain. As I said, something is making her act out. Especially if she is getting all the discipline she needs from you. Just try to understand her, maybe she will tell you what is wrong.
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Pearl333
Has your child ever been in a structured academic setting befor? I teach kindergarten and often times the students with no previous school experience act this way. Parents are usually blind sided because they don't act that way at home. I wouldn't necessarily say she is bored yet because even the brightest students still should be learning new things. Kinder will be learning about text to text, fiction and non, sentence structure, grammar, reading, and science. These concepts 99 percent of the kids don't come to us with. If she hasn't been in a formal academic setting she might be finding her way. For kinders lots of time attention is all they care about. It doesn't matter if it's positive or negative. Your child must share her teacher and friends with many others which often times makes them do anything to bring it back to them. Be patient. The first two months are the hardest on all the kids. She'll get there.
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lovelife240
keep up with what you are doing. sounds like she is testing her limits and tring to discover her identity kids will do this, some just dont act out the same as others. make time for some one on one with her.