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randosha

Is there a real need for an Elderly Care Center?

Hi Everyone,

I have been travelling in so many places but everywhere I go, I can still see elderly care centers, where old people are staying there for someone to look after them.

Do you think this is necessary and why?



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randosha

When the parents get old, or so old, why we are putting them in these centers, is it so hard to take care of them? If Yes, why we could not arrange for someone paid, who can come to the house and do the duties?

By the way, those centers are increasing in the Gulf area. In these centers, there are mothers, or fathers who did not see their sons or daughters for more than 10 years!!!!

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randosha

I can understand the existing of care centers for orphans, but is it that hard to take care of our parents, or grandparents?

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mayamay

Imagine that your father needs assistance bathing and toileting, and imagine that your husband goes to work so you must provide that assistance. Imagine that your father weighs 200 pounds, and you are not strong enough to help him to the toilet.

Imagine that your mother has mental confusion. Imagine that sometimes in the morning you wake early, but find that she has already left the house, and you do not know where she is.

Imagine that you are the old person. Imagine that you have one child, and two grandsons, but one of your grandsons has autism and is difficult for your daughter-in-law to manage. Imagine that you have little patience for his misbehavior.

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randosha

I can immagine that one of my parents has the weight, but instead of throwing him away to the care center, I can bring someone paid to my house to help me..It is not that difficult.. At least, that parent still among his beloved ones.

I can imagine that my mother has mental confusion, however, I can arrange for someone paid sleeping next to her all that time, if I am physically not able to monitor her.

For the 3rd case, it is the duty of the daughter to make that balance, if she tried hard, she will reach the solution.

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randosha

What will be your feeling if you have been put in a center like this, with no one from the family to visit you? How your feeling would be??

What about years of your life that have been wasted to take care of your sons, daughters and their grandchildren?

Was it wasy to get rid of you? Can you live THEN in peace.

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randosha

If it is as a social activity, we can hire someone to take that old parent to the care center, have some fun with others, then bring him/her home.

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randosha

God knows what this women is thinking of?

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/08/12/article-0-064C96950000044D-816...

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randosha

The paid employee can come to the house and give a help, when no one is there to listen!

http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/01545/careHome_1545918c.jpg

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randosha

The existance of the elder people is a bless on the family?

Look at these nice pics:

http://www.mdresort.com/images/grandparents.jpg

http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/01371/grandparents_1371795c.jpg

http://domino.lancs.ac.uk/Info/lunews.nsf/I/D9AB47800FF351BC80256EFB004D92BC/$FILE/grandparents+&+children+on+couch+for+lu+news.jpg

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2009/03/23/article-1164199-040E8EB8000005...

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2xstepmom

My mother is 96 years old. Her mind is still sharp, her body is slowly failing. My youngest sister is 54, has never left home, never married or had children, and has devoted much of her life to my parents. While my sister works, a caretaker stays with our mother, paid by the insurance they are fortunate to have due my late father's employment with a major company.

Without that insurance, my sister would have no other choice than to put our mother into a "Elderly Care Center". Our siblings all have to work and live many hours away in other states. After my father's death, I was no longer able to help with my mother's care due to a change in circumstances. There is no easy solution to this situation.