nanlisa's picture

Being asked by strangers why your kids aren't in school

If your kids are being homeschooled and if you take them  on an outing, do people stop and ask you why your kids aren't in school? How do you respond to that? I'd like to hear from you.

miss_b73's picture

Well strictly speaking they ARE in school aren't they??

I have been asked more times than I care to mention and it only gets easier as they get older, especially as the results are speaking for themselves now........ luckily I don't have to explain my motives quite so much nowadays because its pretty obvious that I'm not depriving my daughter of her education.

happy's picture

NONE OF YOUR Business  ..........                                        no just kidding   however you do not have to explain to a stranger why your children are not in school . But if you feel the need to explain tell them nicely well if you must know my children are being homeschooled thank you for your concern and have a nice day .

fruitsplash's picture

I happen to be  homeschooled , I didn't know how to tell people at first, I was  natually shy ,so that didn't help any .But after a few times of telling people I got more used to it and as I've gotten older become not shy .In the summer no one even asked because alot of kids are out of school for summer of course.But when school is going on through aug-june or whenever the public schools start in different areas , I simply just say ''no I've fishished my school for the day'' and they don't ask why normaly or I say ''No I don't go to public school'' and if they ask where i go i simply tell them the place that i'm getting my diploma from . But I have gotten used to being asked this questions by people who do not know me very well.

mrspmom's picture

Well, depending on what we were doing and what my mood was at the time...frequently, I responded that the world is our classroom. There is something to be learned everywhere we go - if not newly learned, then practiced (homework!). My kids just smiled and said "we're homeschooled" when asked...I was the one who usually liked to make some kind of point with my answer. Sometimes, though, I did just say that the kids were being homeschooled, and it was recess time (or field trip, homework, centers..all the 'regular school' terminology that makes people more comfortable but that also helps establish that even at 'real school' not all time is spent sitting at a desk being on-task with pencil in hand.

cpaaa3's picture

Honestly I have never been asked why my children aren't in school.  I have heard that others in the co-op we belong to will not let their children out in public until after 3pm because they don't want trouble.  This is what I say...I have done nothing wrong and I will not punish myself or my children for the way I choose to educate them.  Until others start paying my bills living our lives it really is none of their business.

mjax's picture

My response is easy, would you put your kids in public school?? I have  6 & 8 year old's we have been homeschooling since my oldest went to a public school for Kindergarden and came home pronouncing the alphabet in spanish, his teacher told us that the majority of kids were non english speaking students, OH NO, you talk about confused this is America he will learn English first then you can teach him a 2nd language after he masters his first, there is also the violence in public schools, the removal of God and religion, I don't care how you look at it, it is History! Plain and simple we are giving our children Higher education while keeping them in a safe enviroment no colds, head lice, or black eyes. End of conversation.

Jsillygirl's picture

nine times out of ten I don't really have to say anything because my two boy's will pipe in and say we homeschool LOL.  They are very proud that they homeschool and aren't shy to tell anyone.  They are seven and five now.  They have never been in a public school so this is just natural for them.  I haven't had many negative comments so I guess that's good.

cyperspacey's picture

i agree withy ou mjax, i always let people know that the education that my children are getting far surpasses that of the public school. We are in a structured home doing homeschooling. I let the curious ones know we start our day at a very specific time and end at a specific time. The work they are doing is actually harder than their friends. By the time I am done explaining the benefits including the Christian educational values they are getting, the interested party is ususally"wow". I always let them know I choose to homeschool to teach my children the values that are no longer present in the public school and my level of expectation(doing their  assignments, reports, homework etc) is so much more stricter now that I am homeschooling them. When my kids were in public and Christian schools I did not have a clue as to what they were really learning, Well now I do! They love being homeschooled. They were shy about going out in public in the middle of the day(if we were attending a homeschool class, outing) until finally they realized other kids think it is really "cool" to be homeschooled and the ones that don't, my 12 year  old daughter has a way of letting them know what she is learning is so much more than what the public school is teaching! Education included with God.

gail Hanson's picture
gail Hanson

I just tell them we are on an outing, then model good conversation style for the children by asking the stranger about their activities/job/whatever.  I think it's great when other people start a conversation, and it doesn't always have to turn into a focus on us

cjmy12's picture

I am a homeschooling parent of a 4 yrs old and a 9 yrs old and a 4 months old. This actually happened to me today, I made a short trip to the bank and the clerk ask me this question so usually, when we do outings I will have my kids wear T-shirts that we designed. The T-shirts  states " I am a Homeschooler and loving it".