we are at a loss
My husband and I need some help! We are very concerned about our 4 yr. old grandson. My step-daughter, my husbands' daughter is so overprotective of our grandson who is 4 1/2. This boy is afraid to try anything new and now we found out she won't let him ride the bus to school. She told my husband that something could happen to him so he won't be allowed to ride the bus. I grew up riding the bus and so did she, we don't know where her fear is coming from. She told her father that she knows it's her and that's ok. It was great making freinds with kids in the neighborhood riding the bus. This is just the tip of the iceberg and is the most current issue that came up in conversation. Our grandchildren have only spent one night at our house in their lives. We don't smoke, drink or do drugs. I currently babysit a little girl of 4 who has spinabifida and have since she's been a month old. We are allowed to take her where ever we need to go. Not so with our grandchildren! One day I wanted to take my granddaughter to my dearest friends house and the mom say no, I prefer you don't. If they come to our house, the children are very rarely let to go outside alone with one of us, a parent always has to go along. Are we overreacting? We haven't said anything to the parents, as we don't want to be interfering parents. But we are becoming more and more concerned about them. They are very isolated. Our daughter is a stay at home mom and the children don't go anywhere with out their parents. We try and make sure our house is safe, with outlet protection and cabinet locks, etc.. We get the distinct feeling that they don't trust us with the children. What do we do? I came into my step-daughters life when she was young and she was raised to be very independent as was I. We don't understand where this is coming from? Can someone give us some insights?