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2xstepmom

New Grandma

My 31 y/o son and his wife are expecting my first grandchild, a boy, at the end of October. Though I am happy for them and happy about the baby, I am just not excited about being a grandma. Grandma's are old, bake cookes, knit and sit in rocking chairs, right? I don't even cook, and like to go out dancing, to occasional rock concerts and stay out late. I feel like when this baby is born, I will be OLD! How do I become more excited about the arrival of this grandchild? This is really bothering me, especially when anyone calls me Grandma. I am even dreading the baby shower, and having everyone expect me to be all excited about being a grandmother when I am not.



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Kara

Hi, IMO being a grandmother doesn't necessarily mean to be old. It means the mother of the parent. You be the way you are, going dancing, etc, and i'm sure when the little one grows up, he/she will be proud of having such a young grandma. if being called grandma is what's bothering you, you can ask your DS and her wife not to introduce that name to the baby, let him call you whatever you prefer, like by your name or by a cute name like GAGA (instead of Grandma), lol. that's my opinion. And when the baby grows older, he/she will go clubbing with you!!!!

Good luck and God bless the baby!

Kara - mommy to little Madlene 21 months

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acitez

My grandma was a political activist and world traveler, fifty years ago. She did, however, over-season the soup. Her hair was dark red and reached past her waist.

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wot90s

Just to let you know, I am a new grandma, for 3 weeks. My daughter and her husband are great parents, but they will need your love adn support to help them get over the sleepless nights. Especially now, with the economy like it is.My daughter has her own business and works from home, she is on telephone quite a bit, and nurses. Between the waking up at night to feed my wonderful new granddaughter and working all day, trying to help keep the house clean, she will need someone who she can count own.
I wasnt asked to go help, but I love my kids, and that new grandbaby so much, Just to see her, and see how she needs everyone in her life is just awesome.
I dont know if you have that relationship with your family and grandbaby, but it is like dancing in the wind. You can still dance. Every time you go over and help your daughter, son, and hold that wonderful baby, you can dance and you will get drunk with love and caring for those you care for.
I come home from her house and cant wait to get a chance to "go back and play " with my new grandbaby.

Good luck and I hope you find the dance of your lifetime in holding her and you can dance with her or him.. as long as you want.

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2xstepmom

Thank you all for your kind comments and advice. My daughter-in-law (who states she is not thrilled about having her own mother around much because her mother "ruined" her niece) has invited me to be at the hospital when the baby is born, and to spend my fall vacation, which happens to occur a few days after the baby is due, with her and the baby, as my son will have to go back to work. I am doing better with this whole "Grammy" idea and your input has help greatly.

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concerned mom

So glad you're feeling better about the idea of being a grandma. "You're only as old as you feel." Save up all your energy b/c believe me you'll need it. Babies bring so much joy. Embrace it, and enjoy this special time in your life. I think it's nice that you and your DIL are so close. You can still go to rock concerts and do all the things you normally do. Grandmas can be cool too. 8-) Stereotypes are not always an accurate tool in measuring a person.