Well, i'm a working parent. And i live with my in-laws :( they don't adore me and don't either. My 20 months old daughter stays with them and a baby-sitter, who is very kind and calm. My MIL is way toooo strict. Even when she wants to praise my daughter, she does it in a very strict and harsh tone.. like, when my daughter has a cute dress on, MIL will say "What are you wearing!!!" so... and once or twice i've heard her saying bad names to my girl, like "silly, brat" etc, and i argued with her for that issue, but that's another story. Now my girl is kinda scared of her, and doesn't love her. When i'm around, she goes and hits my MIL, and when we ask her do you love your Grandma, she says "NOOO!!!" while she says YES to the rest of the family.
A couple of months before my daughter would do only what i told her to. And never did anything her Grandma told. Now i've noticed the opposite - gradually, she does only what her grandma tells her, without paying attention on what i tell her. It's not fair - i'm her mother, i love her, and i'm the one doing EVERYTHING for her. she never does anything. we pay our baby-sitter to take care of the baby while i'm at work... Now i think that maybe she's being too harsh with my daughter during my absence, and DD is scared of her and wants to do everything Grandma's way so she won't get angry with her any more... do you think i'm right? or i'm overreacting?
Yesterday my DD took off her shoes, and i asked her to put them back on in a very kind voice (My trasure, will you put your shoes on?). she didn't even pay attention. when i brought her shoes close to her, she started screaming! MIL heard and came into the living room, saying "My sweetie, will you put on your shoes?" and my DD jumped up, a big smile on her face, and yelled "YEEES!!!!" and ran to put on her shoes!! Isn't that frustrating?
Note - my DD doesn't speak yet, only a few words, so i can't ask her what's going on.
The other day we were playing, and i was holding her hand, while she was standing on a stack of flat boxes, and MIL came, saying "Get down, you'll fall!" and i said "I'm holding her, she won't fall down, besides, we're playing!" but my daughter ceased at once her favourite game and got down. I told her that it's ok, mommy lets you play that, get back up... but she didn't. she just didn't! i'm so angry and frustrated!!!
Yesterday when we were alone, i told her that she needed to listen to her mommy and not Grandma... did i do a wrong thing?