GTRockford's picture

I don't want to go another recital!

I have a terrific granddaughter. She's 5 years old and lives in my community. Her mother (my daughter-in-law) is great and has her involved in many things, including a dance class. Now it's time for Granddaughter's recital, and I don't want to go!

I love to play with my granddaughter and when we are together, it's very special. But I am not a "spectator" grandparent. I am not interested in sitting in a dark auditorium, watching 2 hours of other little girls dancing on a stage, so I can see my granddaughter for 3 minutes. What a waste of 1 hour and 57 minutes!!

Part of the joy of grandparenting is that I don't 'have to' do all those things that parents have to do. Am I the only grandparent that doesn't like to sit through these boring, limited-talent productions?

Now, before you write me off as an uninvolved, self-centered grandma...stop. I love to be with my grandchildren. "WITH" them, not watching them from a balcony. I am HANDS-ON. Lots of wrestling, playing, exploring, cuddling, reading, etc. This is the ONLY thing I'm not interested in participating in!

Feedback welcome!

Sister83's picture

I don't think you are a terrible person. You should try to go to at least some of these recitals though. Like Marti said, what is important is that your granddaughter sees you there and feels supported.

GTRockford's picture

Problem solved! I will be attending the final dress rehearsal instead! My granddaughter will actually know I' m there -- as opposed to sitting in a darkened audience with 500 other people. You see, I've been to these before. There are too many people and we really don't see each other.

Also, I agree it's not about "me" at all, which is the deeper meaning of my frustration. I think my granddaughter could be taught that it's not always about "her". Sometimes Grandma isn't going to come to an event ....and it DOESN'T mean I'm not supportive! I guess that's a generational difference.

Thanks for the feedback.

2xstepmom's picture

Good solution and decision! Have a great time with your granddaughter at the dress rehearsal!

roroism's picture

I remember as a kid my grandparents NEVER came to my recitals - however they were the ones picking me up from school so it was very upsetting.