4 year old gifted?
i have a 4 year old daughter, juliana, who i suspect may be gifted. my
she has always been extremely bright, learning very fast, great memory and developed ahead of the "norm" as a baby. within the past year or so she started developing some behaviours that kind of scared me. like being very sensitive to sounds, she covers her ears at certain loud or strange sounds. like, toilet flushing, vacuum cleaner, can openers, loud vehicles, etc. she also has had sensitivities to smells. her energy level seems that of a child with adhd. and she has always been very "touchy feely". she wants to touch other children when playing and when we get ready to leave she wants to hug and even kiss them goodbye, which most children hate. the majority of the time when we leave someones house or someone leaves our home, she will seem as if it is the end of the world. crying and pleading for them to stay. she is quite the perfectionist. she wants things in a certain place and gets angry if they are not "just right". she doesnt take well to discipline at all. but i suspect most 4 year olds dont. she seems to be a bit of a drama queen though. her feelings seem to get hurt easily but she wont cry, she acts angry and almost like she trys to hold back tears and gets angry instead.these behaviours have had me thinking autism until i did some research that made me realize she may be gifted.
as far as her academic skills... she is reading now and cannot seem to get enough. she catches on so fast it just blows me away. she constantly asks me to tell her what "big" words say and will sit and read books for long periods of time. she can do 100 piece puzzels but will sometimes get quite impatient if she cant get things right. she can count up to 100 and can do basic adding and subtracting. she is extremely musically inclined. she keeps great rythym and even makes up original tunes and lyrics. she has a great love for dancing as well. her sense of humor is amazing.
when she is with children her age she seems to want to play by herself. i try to encourage her to play with others but when she does the kids seem to give her strange looks. she plays better with children about 8-10 years old as opposed to other 4 year olds. i may just be a paranoid mom, but that is the vibe i get from watching her interact with kids.
i am more than thrilled how she seems so advanced for her age but the over sensitivity and behaviours worry me so much. i worry for when she starts school in a year. worry for rejection by classmates, teachers trying to pin her with being a difficult child, and other problems.
i am about on my wits end stressing over it all. i want the best for juliana. i want her to have a great education but most importantly a happy mental state of mind.
any advice on what to do, testing, etc, is greatly appreciated!