So many problems, don't know WHERE to begin.
This is some pretty intense stuff. It isn't happening to me directly, but it is coming to me through my fiance's family.
My Fiance's sister has always been very emotional. She's 16, and we usually just wrote her emotions off as she's an emotional person, and did our best to be a big brother (and sister) to her for the past few years. I was letting her use my extra cell phone with her mom's permission. I got the phone bill in the mail one day, and then took the phone away from her. As I work for the company that I have the phone from I looked up my detailed billing.
Turns out she's been calling people in CA, MO, FL, MN, AL...all over. At all times of the night. After we confront her with this she says she's part of some 'phone-sex' ring and all these teens she knows are doing it. So you all know, she is also a notorius, compulsive liar.
A lot of unpleasant stuff is found out and her mom sent her over to another relative for the day and began to look through her room. She found a letter from a sexual abuse organization about getting an STD test. She confronts the sister then, and his sister says she was raped by a man with a ski mask almost two years ago and wanted to get tested.
So they tell the cops, and we hear the story. It's quite full of holes, and no matter how much we wished we could believe her we couldn't, though we never told her this. A day or two later she says that indeed, she was lying. That she had sex with one of the guys from her phone sex ring and was worried. To tell us she was raped she had lied to a pastor, cop, and her best friend, because she had heard if you said it was rape she could get tested for free.
A big break down and make up happens. IN the meantime, we found out she had bought another PREPAID phone. She said she told her best friend to send it in an envelope back to the company, who recycles them. We smelled this as BS, my fiance and I, but again only let his mother know our suspicions. She was sent over to a relative's house for a few more days, and they dug around in her room.
Suicide/Run away letters were found, and a lot of explicit things. His mother confronted her best friend, and her best friend assumed that she had run away and told her mother that the prepaid phone wasn't sent out, but she didn't have it. So off they went at 5am after figuring out that she had the cellphone still. They got it from her then, and I helped her go into the phone, as the mother's not so good with tech.
Turns out now she's been telling her cousins and friends (and many boyfriends) that she's being beaten and abused at home, is sending very nasty and erotic pictures to men on her phone, and is generally a completely different person than any one of us thought. We're thinking possibly even schizoid.
The topper of all of this is she came home today, and her mother's not sure what to do. She doesn't want to leave her to her own devices, but she needs to work all day long. The first thing this girl did when she came home is demand that she deserves to listen to her music (Avenged Sevenfold, Disturbed, et all. I like these guys, but with whatever's going on in her head her mother doesn't want her listening to that), how she has no right to go through her phone, and her things.
We're all at our wit's end at this point. My fiance is absolutely furious that his little sister has no regard for the pain she's causing, even though she's been made aware of this over and over. I hate to see the family so torn apart, but there's little to be done. Counselling session's set up, but she's most likely going to lie to them to. If this girl is willing to lie to her mother, brother, sister, future sister-in-law, aunt, friends, pastor, and a policeman?
Why NOT lie to a counsiler?