Hello! I am new to this site, just started today! I need to know if I'm being petty. Here's the situation. My sister-in-law is one of my best friends, we've been friends of and on for about 20 some years. I love her to death, she is the type who is always offering help, will do anything for you, and always offering advice. The problem is that my husband and I think she is competitive with me. I have 3 kids: Liam 10, Jack 5, and Maeve 2. She has 4: ages 5,4,3, and 9mo. My mother and father-law live about 2 minutes from us, everybody is pretty close; lots of Sunday dinners, birthday parties... My sister-in-law is over her Mom's at least 3 times a week. My in-laws are let's say "closer" to my sister-in-laws kids. There is clearly more attention given to her kids. I could go on and on with examples, but I won't! She just had a photo book made up of her kids where all the pages had poems pertaining to her kids. Then she had a calender of her kids made and gave them out to all the family members - there are 5 siblings. I feel like she is making sure her kids are the favorites - and they are, anywhere she goes (Gymboree classes, school) she makes sure they get all the attention. It's really hard for me to have the kind of relationship I want with my in-laws due to this, and it grates on me alot. Any thoughts or suggestions?