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Seeking Advice after a move...

I feel selfish and maybe even guilty because I recent took a new job which allows me to work from home. I could have moved closer to my son, but I moved further away so I could pursue a relationship with my current girlfriend. Since we have moved to Boston, I am now realizing I don't think I can start a family with her in Boston, as she would like...because how can I possible visit my son and still be father and husband to a new family. I feel like I need to move to Florida and end my relationship. I have had many relationships, this one is special BUT my son is about to enter manhood 8-16 can be tough and it would be better if I was a 1 hours drive, as opposed to a 8 hour flight.

Thoughts on seeking balance or should I just move near to him and let the relatiohship part take care of itself.

PS
Girlfriend has to move to Boston for residency, no choice.



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I really would appreciate some feedback.

I left my job with the United Nations to be near my son, after about 18 months of job hopping and dating a mix of women. I decide I need to move 4 hours north to Atlanta to finish grad school and maybe get a job in Atlanta, pursue a girl...that worked out. But then the girl moved to Boston, I graduated and got a great work from home job...I moved to Boston knowing that my son and his step-family are well in place. My son was 2 when I went to Iraq, my wife left me shortly after...he is now 8, he has a great step-dad, step brother (7) and sister (12). I am planning on seeing him a total of 26 days out of the next 7 months. I always told myself I would not measure my love by the time I spend or do not spend with him.