Relationship with Mom falling apart
I am going to try and make this short, but I am a 20 year old community college student that will be transferring to university in the fall. My parents are in pre-divorce part of divorce, haven't been served etc.
My mom left and is currently with the man she's been helping with special needs children's legal cases. He lives 45 miles away from where we are. She only comes by the house 2-3 times a month to check up on things and leaves. Doesn't stay there with my two brothers. She doesn't want to come back because she dislikes my dad.
She demands me to bring the boys over at least twice a week and it's hard enough with that while commuting to school and taking my brothers to and from school each day. I take care of them while my dad works. I am really tired of taking them over because I need time to study and it's stressful for me enough trying to get my brothers to go. My mom is taking my decision as an act of taking side and I can't get her to understand that I need time to rest. Before I used to be able to hang out with friends and do things I love, but I no longer can because I have taken her place as surrogate in the household. She tells me to cancel classes if its too stressful. My dad has tried to set up transportation with my mom but she refuses to work with dad and only me. I have set my boundries but my relationship with my mom has gone to dust.
At this point her actions are literally killing it.Is there anyway I can keep our relationship strong?