Problem with sister & brother in law
I am happily married to my husband for 6 years. We have 2 children together. My husband has a brother who is married with 2 children. My sister in law and I do not get along. We have known each other for 8 years and the relationship has always been a difficult one. We disagree on everything from parenting to politics. Our relationship has been a rollercoaster ride from the beginning, but even so, she is the godmother of my son and I was her bridesmaid. My husband and his brother have always gotten along. My husband does not care for our sister in law, but he treats her with respect. About 2 months ago, my sister in law and I had another falling out, this time though she sent a "family"e-mail out and said that her and her husband do not like me and wish not to speak to me ever again. At first I thought she was kidding and we would work out our differences like we always have and move on. So I respected her and did not talk to her for 2 weeks. I then got a call from her threatening me that her and her husband would call the police if certain items that were lent to us were not returned within the hour. My husbands parents got involved and it blew up into something more. Now my sister and brother in law are not speaking to us or my husbands parents. Last weekend was our nephews birthday. My husband and I sent him a birthday card which they returned in the mail with "return to sender" written on it. We did not put our return address on the card, my sister in law peeled back the corners to see who it was from and then returned it. My husband and I are hurt. That card was meant for our nephew. I do not understand how things ended up the way they did. She is my sons godmother and will not acknowledge the kids nor us. I agree that it is best for us not to be "friends", but I want to see my nephews and get together at family functions without world war III breaking out. I'm not a bad person. I have always said the nicest things to her. But she is the type that if I complain about 10 pounds I've gained, she thinks I am implying that she is fat. Or if I say that I love staying at home with my children, she thinks that I am implying that she is a terrible mother for working. She has no idea that I am the one who has defended her when family has talked behind her back. I was raised, that if you don't have anything nice to say you don't say anything at all. I don't know where to go from here. I am afraid to contact her, because I wouldn't put it past her to call the police. I just want to reconcile for family peace. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thank You.