Please give me an objective point of view!
First of all, thank you for taking the time to read my tale. Double thanks if you have some words of wisdom for me!
I have these in-laws..... these impossible in-laws..... who create a huge dramatic saga, then want you to stay quiet and just be the recipient. Here's a fine example:
This past week my husband and I, after a long period of debating the subject, finally agreed on a baby name for the daughter we hope to have. In the future. I'm not currently pregnant.
I said something in my FB status about having decided in a name for our FUTURE baby, as several of my friends and I had joked about how difficult agreement on this had proven to be. I speficially said FUTURE child. Within ten minutes my brother-in-law, sister-in-law and mother-in-law had gotten on the phone with each other, deciding that I was pregnant and had chosen to announce it on Facebook! No, I'm not kidding. First of all, if I knew we were having a daughter I'd be five months along! The good sense God gave a mule should have told them that. But... it got better.
The SIL texted my husband, who'd been sitting right next to me when I'd put the innocuous message up, saying "Your wife is LEADING people to believe she's pregnant", something to the effect that he should take care of that. WTH?!?!?!?!?!Are you kidding me?
I tried to respectfully talk with her about it, to get it resolved, but she wouldn't talk to me. Then, against my advice, my husband called my mother-in-law to voice his disapproval of all this nonsense, which got it all stirred up again. I called my MIL, begging her to just drop it, not to say anything more about it to my SIL, to just let it go. Yeah, that can't happen with these people. So yesterday, the SIL called my husband, saying she's tried with me, she doesn't know what else to do, I'm going to turn her against him.... blah,blah,blah. I called the MIL to ask why she went against my wishes, why she made things worse, and she snapped at me, telling me this all just got her too upset, not to talk to her about any other member of the family, she just couldn't take it. She seemed to have no problem talking about it with the SIL, but with me, who was actually trying to resolve something.... no.
I was supposed to stay with them this coming Tuesday, I have an interview in my husband's home town (we've both been out of jobs, so we're looking at moving there. I know, I know.) I politely declined staying with them, I have a friend who lives there and was going to drive me to the place where I'm interviewing anyhow, so I wouldn't have the stress of finding a new place on top of an interview. They're still not talking to us.... but I'm quite sure they're talking to each other.
What can I do with this bunch? They talk about me among themselves, know NOTHING about me, yet when I try to open up a dialogue, for a mature discussion, they won't talk to me. They are very clique-like, with it being very clear that I am considered as an appendage to my husband, they have no interest in having a relationship with me. Thoughts?