My in-laws have become out-laws!
Help! I don't know where to start. My husband and I are having problems getting through to our in-laws. All we've been trying to do is move forward from an argument that has been going on far too long. Our problem is getting them to open up to us about hurtful things they've said, and getting them to take some credit for why we're in this mess. No one will admit to anything, and any time we bring up something that was said, it either gets twisted around or denied. On top of that, we get accused of lashing out, when all we're trying to do is talk about the problem. The whole thing is soooo frustrating!!! At this point we're willing to put everything aside just to move on. However, this is impossible b/c we only get ignored. I refuse to be in a room w/ others who are going to disrespect me and my husband in such a manner. I'm at my wits end, and don't know what else to do!! Presently, my husband and I are not speaking to his family, except for his mother. The whole thing is really sad. We left the ball in their court to call us when they're ready to move forward in a mature and sincere way. My husband is torn up about the whole thing, but he continues to stand by my side. I don't like to see him hurting, but I don't know how to solve this situation, if no one else is willing to work w/ us. My husband's youngest brother is getting married in 2 mos, and I refuse to go to the wedding under the circumstances. My husband wants to go for his mother's sake, so I respect his decision. His brothers are playing dumb about the whole situation and saying they don't have a problem w/ us. However, when we get together, we hear the under-the breath comments and continue to get ignored. Do you think I'm being selfish letting my husband go alone to his brother's wedding? The truth is that I really want to go, but I can't get myself past how I've been treated and the hurt that I feel. Nothing has changed, except that we're all not talking. We expressed our feelings about wanting to move forward. We even apologized for our actions. Why can't they make an effort to do the same? Is that too much to ask? Sometimes I think that too much was said, and nothing will ever change. Yet we're still willing to try. Why can't they?