I'm a 47 yr old mom with a 22 yr old son - I'm trying to establish some sort of adult balance in our relationship, he's an incredible young man that has overcome some very daunting odds with a chronic health condition...he's a bright, articulate, stable young man. For the most part we have a wonderful Mom/Son relationship, very normal, lol. What concerns me is that when I have a phone call that requires some sort of privacy, he becomes angry, rude to me, either during the call so the caller hears or after my call is finished he's almost hostile, sullen. I've tried many times over to reconcile this issue - I'm apalled & embarrassed when he's rude and my caller can hear. I allow him his privacy when he's on calls, I don't interrupt...so it isn't by example that he does this. It sounds like paranoia but it nearly seems that he waits until I'm on the phone before he has a question for me and needs something from me.

Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm aware that it seems he's controlling over my private time; I just don't know how to manage that in a healthy manner. Any & all suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

BG