Mom hates being a mom
Where to start, 2 kids: oldest is ~3.5 and in the middle of resisting potty training; youngest just turned 1.
My wife does not have the patience for potty training; if my oldest son won't sit on the potty, he'll get a spanking.
If she can't get done what she thinks needs to be done, she'll let the youngest cry in the crib for hours.
Frustrated, she calls me from work - she hates my job due to frequent late nights - to say she "hates being a mom."
She's threatened to leave, nearly did one time, because being a parent takes away from the time for her to do what she wants to do. Sadly, I expect that to happen at some point.
I'm just trying to get us through the potty training with as little stress as possible but am not sure how to proceed. My son often will urinate when sitting, but has not yet defecated in the pot. I'm not even thinking of him staying dry all night.
Any advice given my wife's extreme lack of patience?