My therapist keeps working hard on trying to get me to deal with the anger and resentment that I have regarding my husband walking out on me and the kids. She feels I should develop empathy for him. The thing is, he runs away from everything that requires emotional intelligence - he knows he doesn't have it, and he doesn't want to put in the effort to get it. I've come to the realization that he is very scared, but also very selfish, because he's seen his lack of EI have negative effects on the kids and still does nothing. My saving grace is that I have accepted this. When I try to focus on empathy for him, I get really angry - when I focus on the kids and I moving forward, I have lots of positive energy. Yes, it's a crying shame that for whatever reason former hubby has, that he's chosen to quit his family over getting help. But I should have empathy for that? I get to pick up all the pieces and do the teen years alone yet again - he left when our 1st child hit 14 and was "challenging" He returned later, when things got better. Any thoughts out there?