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hefgirl

I'm afraid to leave

My husband and I have been together for 16 years. I have been a stay at home mom to our 3 kids for 15 of those years. The last 3 years have been trying.He addmitted to cheating on me during our 2nd year od marriage....while I was home with our infant daughter. Since then everything has been downill. He tells me to just leave, that nothing in the house is mine anyway. He thinks because he "bought" our home and furnishings that I have had nothing to do with keeping the house functioning for the last 15 years while raising our kids. He always holds that over my head and makes me feel that I truly have done nothing. I'm scared to leave because I have no money,no college education and no means of supporting my kids or anywhere to go. Whats the first step?????HELP!!



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seikialice88
Thank you so much for your post.
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pel
many states are marital property states, meaning that no matter who the breadwinner was when things were bought, the material items and assets purchased during the time of the marriage are equally split during the divorce. He can threaten all he wants, but you are also the mother of his children, so there is also child support as well.I have been in your shoes, and it is no picnic - I won't lie and tell you it is. But if he is going to be such a bully about things, your children see this. It is up to you to show your children that is not a healthy relationship. There will be some rough times, but you find your kids as the driving force behind your fighting for a future.