Amanda Dortch's picture
Amanda Dortch

how to tell my ex im pregnant

I am about 9 weeks pregnant and have been debating on how to tell my ex for about two weeks. He and I broke up 4 months ago because he had been keeping our relationship a secret from most of his family and friends and couldn’t deal with the guilt. He has a VERY religious family, and he would be excommunicated if they knew about us. The break up was very difficult on us because we really wished we could be together. Anyways we started talking and hanging out again two months later.. and obviously started hooking up again. We ended it all again because it was getting too messy. Unfortunately it was during this time period that I became pregnant. We have not spoken for two months after mutually agreeing it was the best option. I have no idea how to explain to him that im pregnant. I don’t want him to get in major trouble with his family and church, but I think he needs to know about this situation. I really need advice on what to say to him.



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chjmk
Honey, just call him and tell him over dinner. You need to know where you stand because these next few months are going to fly, so the plans need to be made quickly. I don't get it... you two obviously want to be together! You both need to grow up in that If you love each other, you will take the heat. What's done is done and there's nothing special to say about it that will change the reality. I am not sure you should care so much about his consequences and his religion. It's up to him to find balance and to either honor his religion or not. But, your baby deserves 2 parents. When they love each other and stay together, baby has a secure family to grow in. My hubby and I didn't share the same faith. It's different now, and I won't lie, it was rocky sometimes, but love does conquer all if you don't over think it! Here I am with 2 kids in college and one leaving in 2 years. It can work, I promise! Get rid of the secrecy and good luck!