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Sister83

Dating Relationships

Is it "normal" for a 24 year-old woman to never have really dated or had a relationship? Does anyone have any experience with this or suggestions as to what could be going on (if anything)?

I'm a friend of her family and her parents have expressed some concern/confusion. They volunteered that they don't think she is a lesbian (I've never asked her and neither have they). I'm not sure if they would have a problem with that or not. The members of the family are close, but in a superficial sort of way (they talk daily- but about mundane things, they don't know what's really "going on" in each other's lives). She has a lot of friends that she's met through school and sports, and doesn't seem to have a problem making friends or maintaining friendships.

I debated even asking this, because, hey, what is "normal" anyway? But I thought, I'm signed up for this forum, so what the heck, I'll throw it out there. My thought is yeah, it's a little weird, but who cares if the person is happy.

Anyone have any thoughts on this?



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Tay

If that person is happy then who cares what the others think right. Cause they might value their family value but she's perfectly capable of making her own decisons on how she want to spend their life. This is For anybody who wants a relationship you can listen to your family and your parents advice but in the end you can make your own decisions.

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2xstepmom

This young woman may be concentrating on her education or career and is just not interested in dating at this point in her life. Many young people today are not interested in dating for the sake of dating. My children, 32 and 26, have many single friends who have not or do not date. Young people today have a lot of options not available to young people in the past. Marriage is no longer a necessity for young women, many of whom are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves.

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Tay

There is nothing wrong with you that you are not dating it's very common for those have good expectations of theirselves and don't want anyone to bring them down. That was not what I was implying on I didn't say this young woman was not focusing on her career. I said when it comes down to the dating and stuff you may listen to your friends and family opinion about it but in the end it's gonna be your decsion to rather date this person or not is what I was saying. Also I didn't say she needed anyone to take care of anyone cause she's capable of ding that herself. Yes there are some that are not interested in dating until a later age that's them. She could be interested in dating but she don't want to get too wrapped up in it that she can not focus on her job or her career.It's okay to be single but she might not want to be single she could just want somebody that will keep her company and respect her wishes as to just be friends. That's all I was saying....
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Sister83

Thanks for your replies, I was just curious to hear some thoughts on the matter. I don't think the parents are really very worried, maybe just a bit confused.

I'm around that age myself, and I know some folks that don't have serious relationships. But I can't say that I know any that never go out on dates or meet people to hang out with for an evening or two, just for fun. Some may disagree, but I tend to think that if you plan on getting married, it is a good thing to have at least a litte dating and relationship experience under your belt.

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Sister83

Thanks for sharing! I was thinking she could be asexual. She does have a lot of female friends, I guess it is possible that she could be in a relationship with one of them, but it doesn't seem like she singles one out in particular to spend tons of time with.

I think the parents sort of come from a different perspective too- they were married when they were her age. Different strokes for different folks.