Adult Son Still Sleeps with Mom..Why?!
I was wondering what everyone's thought is on a mom sleeping in the same bed with her 33 YEAR OLD SON when there is a second bedroom she could use...
I can understand falling asleep while watching tv a couple times, but, for the past week since she has moved from her daugther's house to his, when I, his girlfriend of 4 years, hasn't been there, she has slept in his bed and commented on how he has jumped in his sleep at night.
Her husband cheated on her when her 2 sons and daughter were teenagers and, since they've grown and have their own families, she moves from house to house taking care of their children. NOTE: They are from the Carribean and I can see where there is a cultural difference with regard to family closeness, but this difference bothers me..maybe that's the territorial American/woman thinking bc it is, in fact, just his mom and not another woman, but I wouldn't be laying in bed at 30 with my dad! The family is very close, i appreciate that since my family isn't as close. I think his mom is a good woman and loves her children.
He is very independant, educated, self sufficient, financially stable, and a good man/catch who takes care of people he cares about and I appreciate all of that. He loves is momma and they all take care of her, but this is a bit much. I think it's bc she made her children her life and has never gotten into another relationship since her husband.
When he asked my daughter and me to sleep over bc of a snow storm to make sure we were safe, his idea was to have my daughter (11 yrs) and I sleep in the 2nd room and him and his mother sleep in his bed. Ummmm...no..how about WE sleep TOGETHER downstairs on the futon and give my daughter and his mom the beds. We did that, of course, but what was he thinking?
Is this a foreboding of what's to come? While I'm in the house, I'm sleeping with my man. I want to ask his mom about it, but don't want to sound negative or make her feel ashamed (given his personality, he won't feel ashamed), but I would LOVE to know how to bring up the question of why does she still sleep with him or why does he let her..is to be some type of replacement to a man in her life..I mean, do they embrace at night like I like to do with him? ya know spoon, interwine legs and arms...ANY THOUGHTS on how to approach subject without sounding condecending??? I don't think anything I say will change anything as close as they are, but would like to put it out there and get it off my chest. And if that's the case, should I say anything at all? Thank you!!