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iloveyouanak

3 yrs old girl in kindergarten

Hi everyone,i am 32 yrs old mother.
i wrote her because i have no one here right now to talk with, of what i am feeling right now,today is her first day alone in kindergarten,and i am feeling so bad for her that she have to be away from me and have to put her and leave her in kindergarter.

im going to look for a job,my husband is working thats why we decide we put her in the kindergarten.

i would like to ask you guys why i feel bad like this? that my child have to go to kindergarten..i am just thinking she still very young,what if she will just cry there,looking for mom.im just so worried if she get enough attention,care.why i feel bad like this?



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mayamay

If it is a matter of providing food, shelter, clothing, or medical care, then you should work. If it is a matter of providing nicer food, nicer shelter, or nicer clothing, then it is better for you to be the one who cares for your child. In a study by Yale University many years ago it was found that even many five year old children are not yet ready for five mornings a week away from their mothers.

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mayamay

Some word definitions.
Traditionally Kindergarten referred to a half day of school for 5 year old children. Daycare refers to the situation you describe.
Preschool refers to an hour or two under someone else's care two or three days a week.

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iloveyouanak

This is not about i want to buy nicer clothes. i dont care those things.right now i just dont have a choice thats why i really feel bad because my poor girl have to sucrefice from this.
I would love someone from my family could take good care my child at home. but they are not with me here in this country where im living now.
here in this country usually their children is in daycare, from the age of 9 months they can already leave there.
im totally disagree of that,that's why i stayed home with my baby from the day i gave birth until today, my husband's work is on and off thats why im planning to find a job to help our situation.very hard.

thank you very much mayamay for your comments make me feel better when i can talk to someone.

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mayamay

Before you get your job, ask if the daycare will let you spend some time there with your little girl. If daycare is never a place that you spend time with her, it will be a worse place. Maybe you could come early and spend a half-hour there with her before you take her home a couple of times.

I hope you or your husband can find steady work.

Try to keep the same daycare provider, it is harder on your child if she keeps changing people. My day-care provider --20 years ago-- was from India. She had 1 other day-care client and a few of her own children. I made sure to pay her on time.

I hope you are mostly speaking your own language at home with your child. She will be a better speaker of English AND of your own language if she learns to speak each from a native speaker.