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sballlvr

Teen pregnancy

How should we address this growing issue?



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Jothegrill

One child (teenager) at a time.

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tamz

Well, I don't think movies like "juno" help the kids... It seems kinda cool when you see it happen to Juno ...

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L.B

well i am a teen mother and theres no way really to address this issue cause accidents happen all you can really do is talk to your kids and hope they make the best decisions when they go out in the world i mean its not like you can keep them locked up forever and my son was accidently concieved but hes not a mistake i probably wouldnt know what to do with out him now !!!

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L.B

the movie juno is a sad and weird movie i mean i wouldnt be able to give my kid up for adoption but anybody who is a teen and would think that it is a cool thing to be pregnant has issues and their parents probably havent talked to them much and set in the right values ....i mean i always tell my friends DO NOT GET PREGNANT its hard and that movie doesnt show the real hardships you go through when your a teen mom or even a teen whos pregnant its hard I KNOW and i agree that it doesnt help prevent teen pregnancy

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tamz

L.B. God bless you and your little son. I was also a teen mother and as you said it's not easy. When you get older is when you truely realize what an enormous responsibility a child is ... when you are young, you can't fully understand that this is a LIFETIME of responsibility. I do however think parents can do more than just talk with their kids... talking is definitely the most important thing, but they can also get their girls on the shot if they suspect she is sexually active.

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concerned mom

I don't think the media helps, that's for sure. I saw a show where a pregnant teen (16) was interviewed w/ her boyfriend. She said if Jamie Lynn Spears cld do it, so cld she. It's sad to say this, but maybe it's best to put these girls on birth control. I don't want to imply that I'm promoting teen sex, but only that something shld be done to prevent pregnancy at such a young age. You can raise your kids with all the love and morals in the world, but in the end, they're going to make their own decisions--some good, others not so good. As parents, we have an obligation to protect our kids and keep them safe. Yet, we have to be realistic. Eventually we have to loosen the cord and hope our kids gained the sense to make responsible decisions for themselves. This is a tough subject. As parents, we have to do the best we can to raise our children to make mature, responsible decisions, and teach them to respect themselves and their bodies. They also need to know about AIDS and other STDs and the risks of pregnancy, as well as the consequences. I think educating our children is important, and taking precautions to keep them safe is necessary.

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gail

According to
Sexual Risk, and protective factors, a publication on the National Campaign to Prevent Teenage Pregnancy website, these are important protective factors, but the National Campaign acknowledges that these factors are ones that community organizations can do little about. These are the factors that come up first in a statistical analysis of teenage pregnancy.
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Attachment to and involvement with family--bio-parents married, family connectedness, supervision, education and income
peers who delay sexual activity
faith community that promotes delaying sex until after marriage
school -- clubs, athletics, success.
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I would suggest that if you really wish to help your own child avoid teenage pregnancy that you do have some influence on some of these factors. Although you may already be divorced, and have little education and a low income, you can still do things that increase family connectedness. Here are some suggestions.
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Look through family photos. With supplies you already have on hand, (markers, paper, glue) begin an effort at scrapbooking. You may not produce an archival quality scrapbook page, but you will produce a feeling of family connectedness.

Go for a walk together.

Play at the park (softball, basketball, tag, catch).

Check out two copies of the same book from the library and read together.

Sing together.

Go on a sketching expedition. Paper and pencil are the only supplies you need.

Write a letter (snail-mail) to a family member who does not live in your household.

Play a board game or a card game.

Watch a classic TV show together.

Go to a community activity together.

Take a self-defense class together.

go to church together

get together with your child's friends and their families -- have a potluck dinner on Sunday, or Wednesday, or whenever.

Brain-storm together about other things you can do together. If you increase your time together doing things that are fun and interesting, just by 30 min a day or even just by an hour a week, you will be doing something very profound.

Please post your ideas for increasing family connectedness here.

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tamz

Wow! What great ideas about family connectedness!!! I did not understand this until I was much older and by that time, I already had two kids. Gail is right, family, education and communication is VERY important to help teens avoid pregnancy. My bf has a teenage daughter and I am surprised at how much she enjoys hanging out with us. She is most often home for dinner and she travels on the weekends with us to the cabin, she hikes with us and even comes along for fishing expeditions. One thing that I think encourages her to hang out with the family is that her boyfriend is allowed to come too. She is never allowed to sleep becide him and he is not allowed in her room, but he is welcome to do anything with the family that she wants him to. I know she is sexually active (18 years old) but she is able to talk with me about birth control. Having such a strong family history and connection is important to her and how she defines herself. Her father and I also tell her that we believe waiting for the man she will marry is best for her. However, reality is that she is not waiting so we must be able to help her protect herself.

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whtny2010

I'm 18 and 6 months pregnant. It wasn't planned and I may not be as ready as I can be but I'm going to make the best out of the situation. My mom gave me sooo many sex talks because she was a teen mom and she understands that sex as a teen is tempting. Accidents happen. I agree with that 100%. We were using protection. But I can honestly confess that it doesn't always work. I have 3 younger brothers and a crap load of little cousins. And I know a thing or two about raising a child. I'm still attending the University of Rio Grande and I am still going to proceed with my plans I had made for myself, I'll just have to make some slight changes. And I know with the help of family and friends I'll be O.K.

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acitez

First the references.
UNAIDS. 2004 Report on the global AIDS epidemic, page.72
Preferred sources of condoms among young men in Kampal, Uganda. KamyM, Kapiriri L, Kamy S, Biryabarema C, Kajubi P, Hearst N, McFarland W, International Conference on AIDS.

Now the analysis.
In 1995, sexually experienced teenage men ages 15-17 had a sexual activity rate of 33%. In 1995 the 18 and 19 year-old men who were sexually experienced had a sexual activity rate of 58%. Then the barriers to condom use were lowered. Perhaps co-incidentally, the rates of sexual activity among sexually experienced teenagers rose to 120% or 125% of the pre-intervention levels.

The only group that benefited from the lowered barriers was married women and men, who used condoms more, but that may have been because the proportion of married men with MULTIPLE PARTNERS increased among some age groups.

Now the conclusion.
The pope was not only telling the truth about what he believed, he was right.