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nataliep

I need help

hi I need help with something, I am 16 and four months preganant I know not supprising though I am unable to stop bleeding and I want to know if there is something wrong or what?  The only problem is that I can not go to the doctor mainly because my parents do not know though also I am at a boarding school.  So if somebody could help me that would be great.



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susanc

I realize you are probably very scared.When you are pregnant, any bleeding should be checked with a doctor.Is there someone at your school that you can confide in?I  know this is a very difficult situation for you, I also have teenage daughters. I would want to know if my daughter was pregnant, just thinking about you going through  this on your own is just making me want to cry.I dont know what your relationship is with your parents, but maybe you could try to talk to them.I believe every child is a gift,there are people out there that are willing to help you.PLEASE RESPOND BACK!  I am very concerned about you. susan

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blackngold

     Yes,  there is something wrong if you are "unable to stop bleeding" at 4 months pregnant.   You need to speak with a medical professional.   Heavy bleeding is reason enough to see a gynecologist,  if that's all you feel you could say at this time to a guidance counselor or parent.   I know you must be very scared,  but at the moment you need to put your fears aside,  use common sense,  take care of yourself and your baby.    

     I know you have alot on your mind,  but please read alittle about my story.

   My mother was a teenager when I was born.  She hid her entire pregnancy from friends and family,  even her parents.   Her parents found out when she went into labor.   She placed me for adoption, and I was adopted by great people,  my parents. 

  My birthmother,  like everyone,  is a totally different person as an adult than she was as a teenager.  Her biggest regret in her life isn't that she got pregnant,  but that she didn't confide in her mom.  She was sure her parents would disown her if they found out she was pregnant, so she never gave them a chance.  And it broke her parents (my grandparents) hearts to know their daughter needed them so badly and they weren't there for her.  

    And as her daughter,  I'm  most thankful  that she gave me life,   and that even thought she was a terrified pregnant teenager,  she found a way to get prenatal care and prenatal vitamins.  I was underweight at birth, as alot of babies born to teenagers are,  but I was healthy and strong because my mother took care of me while I was growing in her belly.  She is a hero to me. 

   Please put your fears aside and act.  You need some help now.  I said a prayer for you. 

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madzmom

Seriously, you need to get to the dr. I work for a children's hospital and I can't tell you the number of premature babies born with some type of illness/defect. I don't mean to scare you at all, I know how scary it can be to be pregnant young and not wanting to tell anyone but think about the miracle inside you.

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nataliep

No, there is not anybody at my school that I could confide in and my realtionship with my parents well lets just say that I have a better realtionship with this tree that I walk past everyday.

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nataliep

I do not have a doctor that is also another problem

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susanc

Right now you need to get a phone book and call your local hospital.Tell the operator that you are 16 years old and  in desperate need of pre-natal care. They should be able to reffer you to a clinic that can deal with your situation. There are organizations out there that can help pregnant teenagers.I realize this is difficult, but you really need to get to a doctor! I'm sure all of this is very scary to you right now, and you probably just dont want to deal with this stuff, but you have too. Take this first step, call the hospital and explain your situation.( the person on the other line wont know who you are)These organizations that help young mothers are able to handle your situation.You are not alone out there, if you cannot speak to your parents right now..ok, but you may change your mind in the future, just think about it.PLEASE respond soon, I'm worried about you, just take this a step at a time, you can do this.You are not alone. susan.

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nataliep

I called my local hosptial and they reffered me to some clinic like an hour hour and a half away from my school and I can not walk that far.

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madzmom

Not sure where you live but Ca. has a program called "First 5" which also helps with dr. appts (getting you to & from), insurance, etc. Do a Google search for "(your state) prenatal programs" and that should give you a decent reference of state or county programs that help young and/or at-risk mothers. Not sure how many of these are confidential but it's a step towards taking care of yourself.

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nataliep

okay thank you so much guys, could anybody tell me what maybe wrong if I am unable to go to the doctor because I will have to walk.

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susanc

I am not a doctor, but bleeding at 4  months may indicate a miscarriage or an atopic pregnancy.A atopic pregnancy is a pregnancy that developes in the fallopian tubes, when the tube ruptures,   there is alot of bleeding. this is a serious medical condition. In both cases you need to get to a doctor, for the health of your baby and yourself.Where are you? I will do what I can to help you.Susan.