Why does my child give up on everything?
My wife and I have two girls, ages 7 and 3. Our 7 year-old seems to get very impatient when learning something new and she always gives up.
She seems to be doing just fine at school or when learning from other adults. However, when her Mom or I try to teach her something, she gets very impatient, curls up into a ball/runs away, and reverts to younger childhood behaviors (whining, baby talk, etc.). This behavior always presents itself at the first sign of adversity.
Activites like reading, playing catch, practicing piano (she's in lessons), learning to ride a bike without training wheels, usually end very quickly.
I consider myself and my wife to be supportive, encouraging parents who show our kids nothing but love. We give them constant attention...my wife stays home and I work family-friendly hours. I don't feel like we pressure our kids to do anything, but obviously she's feeling some sort of pressure from us. Like I said, she seems fine when learning from other adults.
This type of behavior isn't new, she's been this way from the beginning. Her younger sister, on the other hand, shows a real willingness to learn and is okay with making mistakes.
I keep trying to find simple exercises where she can get the basics of what we're doing...rolling a ball back and forth, for instance. It just seems like she takes a step backward every time we try something new...even though we use nothing but encouraging words.
I know this is a common problem and I'm probably missing something simple. Any ideas would be much appreciated.